I asked, “Can I call you Doc or Revs, like your friend?”
R replied, “Revs is fine” (with a grin).
I continued, “I have a problem with my wife; she is having an issue with her body.” (She was now listening curiously and attentively.)
I apologized for discussing this and explained that I considered her a doctor. She nodded encouragingly and asked me to continue.
I said, “Whenever we engage in physical intimacy—specifically, sexual intercourse—initially, the foreplay flows well, and she is comfortable with my fingers inserting into her vagina. However, when it comes to actual intercourse, I find that when I attempt to enter her, she cannot bear the pain, as her vaginal muscles are very tight and do not allow me to enter. I researched online and found that this condition is called vaginismus. I have not shown my disappointment to her because it’s not her fault, but she has complained to me that I have a large penis, and that’s the issue.”
R placed her hand on mine to comfort me and said, Okay, I understand your issue, and it has to be treated naturally; there are no medications for this issue.